Every daughter in law’s dream is my mother in law

I wrote this blog years back but never posted it.

I thought long before figuring out what should I name this blog, and somehow this seemed apt!

A fantasy or to say a Dream of every daughter in law when she gets married is to get a mother in law similar to her mom, to be her friend, to be her guide and most of all to pet and pamper her like her own daughter. I walked into Marriage with no such dreams :P ! But somehow God blessed me with the most amazing Mother-In-Law that I could not have even thought or imagined. This is a letter of Thanks and Admiration towards my mother-in-law who i call rightfully as "Amma" now. Me and her started off great as Friends from the first day after Marriage. We talked about shopping clothes jewellery and most importantly our "Husbands" :P! I learnt a lot of things in the kitchen from her and i used to wonder how in the world does she manage to complete stuff so fast and i still wonder. The most important thing that every daughter in law wants is for her mother in law to care for her as her own daughter, and that is exactly what she does. She knows what i like and what i dislike even without me telling her, she grasps my expressions and figures it out. Made sure i got something i liked the next day. Every day my lunch had the kind of food i liked every time she stays with us.

It is a Royal Treatment every time she comes down to be with us.

We would wake up late, sleep early, eat three meals a day including snacks :)! She is a Women I look up Upon and know for sure I could never become her. Very Few Mother-in-law take that extra step to make us feel better, to make us feel like their daughter, My Mother-in-law Made me Her Daughter. I couldn't give her much as a daughter in law even till this date.

She is a Service Machine so to say. Her speed and her Patience I dont think i can ever achieve. She keeps her calm through all our turmoils.

She kept her Calm through all our Fights. Yes, we did Fight, we did have a huge turbulence in our relationship, I was mostly at fault. It is said right, when everything is perfect in your life, You somehow feel something should be wrong for your life to be right and you end up messing it up. That is exactly what i did and i dont think i can forgive myself for it, but i know my Mother-in-law whom i rightfully call my "Amma" did forgive me and loves me even more through it all. I know i hurt her in many ways. It is wrongly said, "Once you get a kid, its best to keep your mother in law away from your life, as clashes might happen like a war and you can never justify who is right" Clashes happened, our thoughts were different, our way of bringing up the child was different, our reasons were both correct, but Me being the younger person couldn't give it up. Couldn't let it go and see the best in life and that situation. I lost my temper and most importantly i hurt the one person I know till date who i truly love. This is also a "Sorry Letter" to my Mother-IN-Law for being so harsh and for hurting you. I was not matured, i had to grow more in life to know right from wrong. Thank you for not holding it against me. Thank You for loving me the same way and caring for me even more. Every Grandmother loves their grand child and pampers him to the core, so she does it, pushed herself to a greater extend to even get sick but still wants to take care of the kid. She is a Women of Service, sacrificing every bit for the family. I silently listened to the orders of her daughter , husband and her son and grandson, "ma i want coffee", "ma i want milk", "ma i want water" all at the same time and every one had a complain as she brought it late. She said no word and moved on to the next. thats her. Thats always her. She took to herself whatever people said and strives to give the best the next day and not scream and shout. She never ever Says a "No" ever. Its always a "Yes" from her side. never a NO.

love you amma ! You are an inspiration and a spriritual women leader in my life !